Services for Harper

As I said earlier, I'd continue to post updates on Harper Gibson as I receive them. I'd been waiting for this one to come. I'm relieved to see they decided to hold a small service. I feel it's important to have something for the family and friends to say good-bye.

In the Arms of the Lord...
Posted 6 minutes ago

Harper Wayne Gibson
December 4, 2006 - April 10, 2009

A memorial service will be held to honor his purpose on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009 at 2p.m.

Forgive me for not sharing just yet...I have a million passionate words...the Lord is in our home and Harper is on our hearts.

Thank you for everything, thank you again, and again, and again.


I've thought a lot of this child in the last few days and the pain that has joined the love in his Momma's heart. Harper's birthday was just a few days before Jacob's. I've thought so much of my own child and how precious his little life is. I've slowed down a little bit and let my dishes wait after Jacob has said "Play wif me?". I've been giving extra kisses and snuggles. I even let him have a cupcake for dinner last night. He informed me, it was "Not bad."

I wondered when we first found out Jacob was coming to us, if my heart would take Jacob in and love him as my son or if I'd always feel reserved and standoffish or scared to love him. I've learned that it doesn't take conception, pregnancy, or childbirth to be a mom, to love a child, to bond with a child. It takes a heart. I may not be able to conceive a child or to carry a child to term but, I have a heart and I most certainly love my child. I love him so much that it pains my very heart. I hope I never have to experience the unimaginable grief of losing my child. As unrealistic as I may be, I hope no one ever does.

I had other posts for this week - I actually had one up before I got the news on Harper's condition. I took it down. I'm okay. I am. I promise. It's very hard to watch a family hurt this way without pulling your own closer - I'm doing that now. Once Harper's services have taken place, and I feel the mourning time is over - not for them (it never will be), but for me, I'll put that post back up. And, we'll get a little lighter around here again.

I do have a message board to post expressions of sympathy to the Gibson family. If you'd like the information, please email me and I'll send it to you. I can also post it for you, if you'd rather.